It’s a new year and you've made your new resolutions, right? If you haven’t done that yet, maybe you need to resolve to make some, hmm?
Has planning ever made your resolution list? Be a better planner? Certainly a worthy goal.
For some it comes pretty natural, for others, not so much...that's okay. There really are pros and cons to either being too set in plans and being too loose with plans.
No matter how different we are, we all have a common goal. We want to hear "those" words. Which words, you ask? Oh, these words...
“well done, good and faithful servant…enter into the joy of your master.” (Matt. 25:21).
To achieve that end there is definitely something to be said for cultivating the discipline of planning (even doing it for the glory of God!) 1 Corinthians 10:31 says whatever you do, whether you eat or drink, do it all for the glory of God.
Even simple, mundane and routine things can be done to bring God praise. God actually commands us to redeem the time for His purposes.
Ephesians 5:15-17 says, "Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil".
It’s really hard to redeem the time when you don’t have a plan!
Without a plan... you will do one of four things:
- go with the flow and quickly become very busy and overwhelmed
- go with the flow and become lazy
- become anxious for lack of a plan
- strive for the wrong things
Which is your leaning? Or can you nod in agreement at all of them? ;) In that case, let's get to planning!
First things first – it’s important to determine your personal priorities so you know how to prioritize your plan. Sit down, pray through, think through and talk through with your husband different areas of your life, including:
-spiritual health
- physical health
- discipleship (growth in you, your family, connection to community)
- service (spending time, talents and treasures on those in need)
- relationships (with the Lord, with husband, with children, friends, extended family, etc.)
Once you have ordered your priorities, come up with a general outline listed with biggest priorities first. It may end up looking something like mine (since most of them are scriptural goals):
1. Love and know God
2. Love, serve and shepherd my family
3. Serve the church with my God-given gifts
4. Love and minister to the lost, poor and needy
5. Honor my body and take care of it
After you have generally come up with priorities, you can make them more specific (serving in church nursery, MOPS group, ministering at the nursing home, etc.). Here's an example of that:
1. Love and know God
- reading/memorizing (fighter verses)
- journaling/praying (prayer cards)
2. Love, serve and shepherd my family
- reading together/family worship @ 5x per week
- sync time with husband once per week
3. Serve the church with my God-given gifts
- mentor college girls once per week
- preschool every other month
- MOPS @ 2x per month
4. Love and minister to the lost, poor and needy
- nursing home once per week
- meal for potluck in Bryan once per month
5. Honor my body and take care of it
- The Shred - 20 min. @ 2x per week
Get out your calendar and look at a typical week. Do your priorities align with your schedule?
Which things are on you calendar that are not on your priority list? Write those down.
These will help you come up with a "Not To-Do" list. Mine looks like this:
Not To-Do List:
- Checking email too often
- Checking facebook too often
- Making a homemade meal for someone on an already busy night (takeout/gift card instead)
- Making something homemade when its not necessary
- Blogging that isn't beneficial to my family, the Lord or the gospel going forth
- Reciting the "rules" to my kids more than His story of grace
- Thinking there is something of my job that matters more than my kids
You get the idea...use the difference between your calendar and your priorities to make this list. You may need to go way back to get enough for a list together. Or just know your own tendencies...
In doing this exercise, we may start to feel condemnation thinking that your life doesn't line up with what you portray it to be or even just what you want it to be to line up with scripture. It's so easy to know what your priorities are (or what they should be) and in the hustle and bustle of life for things to get flip flopped…
I want to first love and know God, but if I look at how I’ve spent my time in a particular week, it doesn’t seem like is true in my life. If it’s true, then I would have put aside the email, the facebook, and maybe even some dishes to have prayed and spent time with the Lord.
So we don’t just want to know our priorities, we want them to reflect in the way that we live.
Shopping for Time is a wonderful book by Carolyn Mahaney that focuses on managing the time God has granted us on earth with the same intentionality we have with shopping. She talks about how we clip coupons, scour sales racks, carefully study garments and think through what would match and how we wouldn’t think of throwing items into our carts before doing those things BUT how often we do that with our time! Our precious time!
Starting your day... can be as simple as praying and reading from the Word. One helpful tip I have received (from Mahaney's book) and put into practice is to get a journal and complete three sentences about the passage of Scripture that you read. I like this method because it can be done simply with a Bible and a journal, anywhere, anytime and I'm not depending on a devotional or needing a new one. Plus, I am reading straight scripture.
1. What does the passage reveal about God?
2. What can I learn about myself in relation to God (based on the verses)?
3. What do I resolve to do in response?
God's sovereignty... There’s a fine line between making plans/sticking with them and then committing those plans to the Lord. Culture tells us we are sovereign and in control of what happens in our lives. It’s important to recognize that as much good planning as we do, human responsibility is always subject to God’s sovereignty.
Prov. 3:5-6 “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Acknowledge Him in all your ways and
He will direct your paths.”
Prov. 16:1 The plans of the heart belong to man,
but the answer of the tongue is from the LORD
Prov. 16:9 The heart of man plans his way,
but the LORD establishes his steps.
God's Purpose... God has given us a mission much different than the world’s. He has invited us to “come and follow him”, and to become His disciple. He doesn't need us, but He wants to use us! That's worth rejoicing over! His purpose is to use us to bring Him glory during this short time we have on earth, to be lights for Him in a dark world. But we will have a hard time doing that if we fail to prioritize our lives to make the best use of the time He’s given us.
So in all of this we are working toward finding balance in planning in order to redeem the time and holding our plans with an open grasp, knowing ultimately He is in charge of our plans. It’s a wonderful and difficult balance that we should always be striving for and always re-evaluating how we are doing in our lives.
Other ideas...
- Take a personal planning retreat (an extended time once or twice a year for study, prayer and evaluation of what’s working/what’s not)
- Plan special times with your family - Daddy/Daughter Dates, Father/Son projects, Mother/Daughter moments, Mother/Son Dates, game nights, movie nights {check out my Pinterest board for some inspiration}
- Plan to simplify/declutter/give generously {check this out}
- Plan your book list for the year. Need recommendations?
Remember this: even if you only change in one area, you will be doing more than if you hadn’t sat down to plan at all. So pick one thing and run with it! God will be honored that you are desiring to live by redeeming the precious, albeit small, amount of time He has given you!
